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The Toi Et Moi Necklace Set

Bestseller

The Toi Et Moi Necklace Set

5.0 (4 Reviews)

Two stones. Two people. One necklace that holds you both, with your birthstones side by side.

Wear It Worry-Free

Waterproof, tarnish-resistant, and made to last.

Waterproof

30-Day Easy Returns

Hassle-free exchanges on non-custom pieces.

30-day returns

Peace of Mind Guarantee

We manually review every design for errors.

Design reviewed

Step 1

Choose necklace

Step 2

Personalise it with charms

50% offcharms added with your necklace

Birthstones

Get it by or with Express

Wear It Worry-Free

Waterproof, tarnish-resistant, and made to last.

Waterproof

30-Day Easy Returns

Hassle-free exchanges on non-custom pieces.

30-day returns

Peace of Mind Guarantee

We manually review every design for errors.

Design reviewed

Satisfaction Remake

Not in love? We'll remake it for you.

Free remake

Necklace length (Adjustable): 40-45cm
Connector diameter Stainless Steel / 18k Plated: 12mm
Connector diameter Silver / Gold Vermeil: 10mm

“I chose my birthstone and my baby's and now I wear both of us around my neck every day. It is so beautiful in person and arrived so quickly.”

Lily T.

How it works

Three steps to the perfect keepsake

Choose your piece

Pick a necklace or bracelet, then the chain, size and finish that suit them.
Personalise your charms

Add initials, names, dates or a message to as many charms as you like.
Gift-ready, delivered

It arrives in our signature gift box, ready to give.

The perfect gift

Who's it for?

Their name, their birthdate, and a birthstone for the day they changed everything.

Try: Initial Charm · Birthstone Charm

Build this set

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Ready to gift

Wrapped with love

Every piece arrives in our signature By Lumine gift box, finished with a satin ribbon and ready to give.

5 stars: 4 (100%)
4 stars: 0 (0%)
3 stars: 0 (0%)
2 stars: 0 (0%)
1 star: 0 (0%)

A forever piece

I chose my birthstone and my baby's and now I wear both of us around my neck every day. It is so beautiful in person and arrived so quickly.

Got this for my best friend and I

One stone for her, one for me, and now we both wear a little piece of each other every day. Could not recommend this enough.

Me and my sister are obsessed

Ordered one for my sister and I with our birthstones and the meaning behind it is what makes it so special.

The most special thing I own

I got this for my daughter and I with our birthstones and it

Have questions?

Commonly asked questions

You'll receive one Cable Chain Necklace and two Birthstone Clip Charms in the months you choose. Both charms clip onto the same necklace, so they sit side by side. You can also clip them on and off whenever you like.

The necklace and both charms are crafted in gold vermeil, a thick layer of 18k gold over sterling silver.

Yes! You can buy individual charms separately and clip them onto your necklace whenever you want. It's designed to grow with your story.

They do! When you add charms to your necklace at checkout, they're 50% off. It's the best way to start your collection.

Orders are crafted and shipped within 24 hours. You can find delivery timeframes in the delivery tab or more accurately at checkout.

Gently clean with a soft cloth and store in a dry place. Try to avoid prolonged contact with water, perfume, or harsh chemicals to keep the finish looking its best.

We offer hassle-free exchanges or returns within 30 days. Just reach out to our team and we'll sort it out.

Every order ships beautifully packaged in our signature jewellery box. Want to go the extra mile? You can add a premium gift box with ribbon before checkout.

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Our story

About Us

More than jewellery. It's your story.

By Lumine started with a simple frustration. Every personalised gift I found felt generic and forgettable. So I set out to create pieces that actually mean something. Necklaces engraved with your partner's handwriting, a date that changed everything, or a quiet message only you understand. Something worth holding onto.

Love,

Founder, By Lumine

Necklace length sizing chart

Inches (in)	Centimeters (cm)
18"	45 cm
20"	50 cm
22"	55 cm

18" (45cm)

A timeless medium length, the 18" necklace falls just below the collarbone. It's a classic everyday choice and pairs beautifully with most necklines.

20" (50cm)

Our most popular length, the 20" necklace offers a classic mid-length fit that sits comfortably across the chest. It flatters nearly all necklines and body types, making it a versatile go-to for everyday wear, layering, or gifting.

22" (55cm)

Designed for a longer drop, the 22" necklace sits just above the bust. This length creates an elegant silhouette and pairs effortlessly with bolder pendants, multiple charms, or as the base layer in a stack.